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when you have a child and they are grown, and for one reason or another, they refuse to speak to you, how do you tell them that something they are doing is inspiring you without irritating the lack-of-communication wall that they insist stays in place. My daughter is 23 and absolutely wants nothing to do with anyone in the family, but she as an individual is doing very well for herself, she is in wonderful shape fitness wise and how she is getting in shape has inspired me., not so much as the being a female Knight and literally fighting with swords, but the training she is putting herself through and the eating habits she is adapting to. How do I tell her without telling her? I have always been heavy but the things she is doing are so awesome to see. Truly inspirational for me
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It's tough to go through, and even tougher to get a sincere message across without it seeming like your trying to "break the ice"... I had this situation with my oldest several years ago. He came around, and hopefully your daughter will as well.
16 фев 18 написано членом: crankybuzzard
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Just a thought, you could say something like..you know your in alot better shape then l was at your age.
16 фев 18 написано членом: murphthesurf
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I would Murph but she's picky and temperamental, she just unblocked me on FB but if I said something to her she would block me again for an undetermined amount of time.
16 фев 18 написано членом: Shrinking_Shamrock
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Write your praises, date them, and when she is ready, give them to her. She should know and apprecitate that you are always thinking of her. I hope it all works out for you.
16 фев 18 написано членом: Idratherbereading
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thanks Idra, i hadn't thought of that before even though I've been saving the birthday and holiday gifts i buy for her so she knows she was always thought of
16 фев 18 написано членом: Shrinking_Shamrock
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Don't wait to tell her - events like what happened in Florida, this week, are examples of always telling some you love, that you care and you'll always be there for them. Tell her you're proud of her - NOW. It's up to her to accept it or not.
16 фев 18 написано членом: JeffersonDad
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Send her a thinking of you card and put a note in it!
16 фев 18 написано членом: PopsGirl
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Yes, write them down and seal them in an envelope. If she feels a need to have contact with you, you can give them to her then. If not, then after you are gone they will be there for her.
16 фев 18 написано членом: Peasy3
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I agree with you JeffersonDad!!! Regardless if my kids would talk to me or not I would smother them with love messages and texts. They would always know that as a mom I put myself out there, regardless if they responded or not.
16 фев 18 написано членом: SerenaHart
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@Popsgirl I would but she won't even give me her address so I couldn't send her anything, I think it's her way of blocking me from contact.., but for all she knows i wanted to send her money for her birthday and holidays. Oh well, I'm not going to push the issue, she'll get in touch when she's ready. if i try to push, I may end up pushing her away
16 фев 18 написано членом: Shrinking_Shamrock
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Send a letter...she can open it whenever she wants - and she might be curious enough to do so <3
16 фев 18 написано членом: Viviace
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Oh...no address.... you know old (school) friends, who are still in contact...? Maybe one of them could take the letter... good luck ;)
16 фев 18 написано членом: Viviace
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praying for complete restoration in your family dynamics. do what your heart says to do.
16 фев 18 написано членом: marshakanady
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font give up, persistence trumps all
16 фев 18 написано членом: DV1977
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I will pray for a line of communication to open between you and her. My mom and I do not always get along, but I love her and could never live without her. Even when we arent getting along. Please try to reach out, via letter to her house or her job. Tell her you love her and are proud of her.
16 фев 18 написано членом: Klynn82
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I am so sorry you are having to go through that, I cant imagine your pain. Keep faith, and keep praying.. You and your daughter will be in my prayers.
16 фев 18 написано членом: SerenaHart
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Gosh. I could not imagine what I would do if one of my children did that .... you are strong. hang in there sweetie.. my co-worker had the same thing with her daughter and after several years the daughter just out of the blue started coming around. keep your chin up. "hugs".
16 фев 18 написано членом: cherik1
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you are doing great ...don't let her attitude deter you in any way...
16 фев 18 написано членом: janstromberg
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send her a card and simply say I love you and you are my inspiration. Tell her you're proud of her and her life she's pursuing. Keep it short and direct and from the heart. She may not talk to you openly but if you send a card, she will more than likely read it. Or at least enough to get a taste of how you feel. Don't put a return address on it, just send it to her. Good luck, and don't give up!! Our lives are to short to ever give up on the ones that we love and mean the most to us!
16 фев 18 написано членом: jenniferl12003
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Life is way too short to leave things unsaid - After my stint in ICU and almost not being here I reached out to my 30 year old son who wants nothing to do with us. I simply told him I love him and would like to have open communication. I didn't go past that - and I didn't make it about me. If he wants to participate it is his call, I have reached out. I am only responsible to build my half of the bridge. If your daughter is doing well and is inspiring you - then say that. one of the biggest gifts I have is that when my Dad passed away - there were no unsaid words between us. he loved me and I loved him and we both knew it, no regrets of wanting one more minute to finish something. I wish you all the best in your journey and your relationship with your daughter.
16 фев 18 написано членом: tahoebrun
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