Tulipgirl6- Журнал, 29 июн 14

Breathe!  

Don't know what to say. No tips to speak of as these pertain to hubby. You have received lots of support & advice outlined above. Just hugs for you. Keep exercising. That healthy activity DOES help one cope. take some deep breaths.  

Please remember that abuse does not have to be physical. These are his children too! Please think about the example the children are seeing. Do you want your daughter to marry a man like your husband? Do you want your son to be a man like your husband? Children do what they see not what you say. I am with you. 

Stop doing everything you do for him.... cooking cleaning washing... tell him that as he has so much free time he can look after himself as you have yourself and the kids to worry about!  

thank you everyone; i am just lost . . . . it's a wonder I didn't actually gain weight with the cookies and party mix yesterday . . . . 

Be encouraged Tulip, this is just a sliver of time that will pass and all will be right with the world again. Hang in there sister... 

Shronzie, from experience both physical and mental abuse from ex's. The mental abuse my children suffered due to my abuse both physical and mental from their dad has been worse for me than anything I survived. I have learned much since are grown and have children of their own. Honestly, and my girls know this, I was too busy trying to stay alive and protect my girls the best I could. I would give anything go back and change their lives.  

Tulip, I can't tell you to hang in there because you already are. know that my thoughts are with you. Allow me to make an observation ... it's more about my life but I think it can apply to almost any one. You can't take back what has already happened in your life, or the choices you have made or whatever you have accepted as your lot up until now. However, you can change the future because that part of your story is still unwritten. I love the words of Natasha Bedingfield, Unwritten because it is so appropriate for everyone who is aching to live a different life or dare I say it .. your best life. Some of those words I will share with you now to remind you that tomorrow is another day and your story is waiting for you to write the next chapter. I hope you find the words as inspiring as I have: "I am unwritten Can't read my mind, I'm undefined I'm just beginning The pen's in my hand, ending unplanned Staring at the blank page before you Open up the dirty window Let the sun illuminate the words That you could not find Reaching for something in the distance So close you can almost taste it Release your inhibitions Feel the rain on your skin No one else can feel it for you Only you can let it in No one else, no one else Can speak the words on your lips Drench yourself in words unspoken Live your life with arms wide open Today is where your book begins The rest is still unwritten  

Good words Jenn.  

Tulip, there is a book called "Women who Love too Much" it's from the 80's. It helped me a lot and one of my daughters. I gave it to someone and do not remember the author.  

thanks Jenn; inspiring and true; & I will look for the book wholefoodnut;  

Oh honey, I am sorry that things haven't improved. I hope that you find a solution for you and your children.  

Tulip, I looked up the author is robin Norwood and amazon has it.