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I figured out why I prefer to "just say no" to certain foods rather than kidding myself into thinking I can just have one and stop there.
Let's say I have one cupcake with icing and it's 178 calories. That's no big deal. I can have ONE. Mmmm, it's delicious. Too delicious. But the experience is over in something like 2 minutes if I eat slowly. It was so good. Now I want more. But I know I can't have more. Then I feel bad that I can't have more. Then I get mad that I can't have more. It seems unfair. I want to pout. Now I feel like I'm 4 years old having a tantrum because I can't have a cupcake!
And to me, this is why it's easier to just say no to the first cupcake, so that I don't find myself feeling helpless and like a 4 year old having a tantrum. I don't like telling myself "No" about anything. I don't like denying myself.
But then you might ask, how can I deny myself that first cupcake? Because it's easier to say no to the first one and save the 178 calories than to end up in tears and 178 calories fatter and feeling sad and deprived. Does that make sense?
I also console myself by reminding myself that I know myself, and I won't be happy with one. One is too many and the entire batch is not enough. So why start?
I envy people who can have one bite of cheesecake and say "Oh, that's too rich!" and put their fork down. I'm leaning over their plate saying, "What? Too rich? Let me try it!" Haha!
I guess it comes down to not wanting to have to police myself. It's easier to have a zero tolerance rule than a "just one and no more after that" rule. But as I am famous for saying, this only works for me, and I' think it's great if others can make moderation work for them. I can be moderate with things like alcohol because guess why? It's not my drug of choice. Food, however, is.
And there you have it.
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Makes perfect sense to me! It's not always just willpower, sometimes it's food addiction or body chemistry in play. I may want the cupcake, but I don't want the chain-reaction that comes with it. Just saying NO in the first place is way better for me.
03 мар 14 написано членом: JenSinMA
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'I envy people who can have one bite of cheesecake and say "Oh, that's too rich!" ' I believe you're actually seeing the truth that Men in Black was not fiction. They must be aliens, and not from Mexico. Buffy. I used to love reading Robert Heinlein. He had a motto: Everything in excess, moderation is for monks. That was my motto for a long time. It's scary to think about it. I, as Dom well knows, have no issue with having one and then leaving it alone. You know that, right, Dom? Right? ... Dom?
03 мар 14 написано членом: northernmusician
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Needless to say, I love this post! I had such inner turmoil for so long about if I should/how much/what sugars I should eat. I kept going back to the fact that for me, sugar is an addiction. I can't eat just one, and I agree nothing is too rich! It's finally been so freeing to not (eat that one). But, I kept reading articles saying that restricting a food ultimately leads to a binge. Well, for me, its eating that first bite that leads to the binge. Also, for me, it's having though the right mindset about my way of eating -- having a mindful approach, & knowing that I can choose to eat sugar anytime I want to. I just know now that if I do, I won't feel well afterwards. I think about it now as having a food intolerance for sugar, just as I do for gluten & lactose. So, yes, I'm an abstainer… and obviously in good company! xoxox
03 мар 14 написано членом: Ruhu
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Which is why my display pic is a cupcake! I cannot have it in real life, but I can have it at FS. Sugar is my enemy. If I indulge, my doctor will put me right back on diabetes pills. Never again.
03 мар 14 написано членом: Deb_N
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LOL... yep... totally get it! I don't totally refuse everything I want, but I know I have to refuse some of my biggest temptations. BTW, cheesecake is never too rich for me! Which is exactly why I can't have it! I did good for my kids Jan/Feb birthdays though... the rule was 1 small piece of cake and I stuck to it and only whined in my head "just a little" lol
03 мар 14 написано членом: JeanineDS
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03 мар 14 написано членом: wholefoodnut
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Once again....you nailed it!!!♥
03 мар 14 написано членом: PinkRose88
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03 мар 14 написано членом: bluesandbraves
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Everytime I read one of your journals , it seems you say things that could have come straight out of my own mind. Reading this made all the sense in the world to me. I wish that I could be one of those people who ate one bite of ANYTHING ... but NO I would not stop if I started and I know this. It is what got me here. So I understand. It is indeed easier to not have any than to indulge ... that would be like breaking a dam for me ... the flood waters would go crashing thru and there would be no stopping the flood ( of bad but tasty items entering my mouth ) . I just simply refuse to let it happen.
03 мар 14 написано членом: chryssm
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Do what works for you and try and not beat yourself up so much for being human.
03 мар 14 написано членом: LadyBea40
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Which brings me back to my addiction. I just can't eat one. Damn potato chips. He'll ask if I want some, I'll say yes then close up the bag without eating any. Then there are the times no one is around and I'll eat them and eat them and eat them. If it wasn't for husband, they'd not be in the house. Kudos on your strength to "just say no".
03 мар 14 написано членом: ClassicRocker
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Hmm, it's not about beating myself up, it's about knowing myself well enough to not want to feel like a child. And knowing that, I can stop at "none". If I were an alcoholic, would anyone tell me not to beat myself up for refusing to drink? Same thing, the way I see it. Ruhu said it best. It's an addiction, for me, anyway, plain and simple, and now that I "get it", it's so much easier to say, "Eh, maybe some other time. Like on my death bed." ROFL.
03 мар 14 написано членом: mrsmole
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Again! Who could say it better?! :D
03 мар 14 написано членом: myawethinTICself
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04 мар 14 написано членом: bluesandbraves
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I like it when you say NO. Please continue. ;)
04 мар 14 написано членом: Deb_N
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Two things, firstly my wife is fantastic at saying NO (lol) secondly I agree 100% and this is one of the reasons IF is so easy for me, its easier to say no, and not eat than worry about what to eat, how much to eat, how many calories in what I eat etc etc. Nicely put post MM :)
04 мар 14 написано членом: Kingstephen
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And you will find that the longer you say No especially to sugar, the easier it gets and finally you will reach that point where one bite is all you can handle. I've been sugar free for almost 10 years now and know this from experience. Stay strong, many articles out there comparing sugar as the heroin of the food world.
04 мар 14 написано членом: mummydee
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I agree with mummydee, though haven't abolished sugar completely, use 1/4 cup of brown sugar in 2 loaves of my bread. I splurged on a long John valentines day, it was more sugar than I could tolerate, I really couldn't even eat lunch after that. Don't think I will do that again, I'll stick to fruits.
04 мар 14 написано членом: wholefoodnut
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How sad is it that I have been doing so terrible lately that this just makes me want a cupcake. Gotta say no!
04 мар 14 написано членом: abbyamour
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