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I don't usually post stories but I'm going to today.
I'm at work in a city hospital in NJ. I was in an elevator with several people and an older couple entered. It was obvious immediately that the woman in this couple was either agitated or simply unpleasant. There was some small talk among some of people in the elevator. Suddenly this woman blurts out-"This place is a pain the ass to get to." of which she repeated. Well, nobody needs to hear that. There are plenty of things in the world to complain about. The fact that you have been inconvenienced when you are attempting to visit someone in the hospital is not one of them. It's a first world problem. She looked square at me, seeing my badge, waiting for validation of her misery. I looked square back at her and said, "Well, getting around is part of life. We all have to do it." She squawked in my face, "WELL, I AM 76!" I answered her with, "I'm 63. like I said, it's part of life." at that point the elevator arrived at their floor and they got off. As a doctor got on and the elevator doors began to close, I saw this woman look at the elevator and say, "YOU SHOULD GO ON A DIET!" Fortunately for my job security, the doors closed before I could jump out and sock her square in the nose, the old bitch.
None of us here want to be FAT. Most of us are trying hard, some of us are just trying. All effort is good effort. Here's the thing: Most of the time we suffer in silence. That's why we come to a place like this, where once in awhile we can share our pain, discouragement, shame, hopelessness and often, success. None of us needs ANYONE to tell us we're FAT. We see it in the mirror everyday, on the scale every morning. Most of us remember when we were younger and stronger, happy and confident. It never ceases to amaze me the capacity of people to mean to one another...even to a complete stranger.
I wanted to send that woman downstairs to the Emergency Room with a broken nose.
But I didn't.
I'll probably never see her again. But success is a better revenge.
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Thank you EVERYONE! Your responses touched my heart and made me laugh out loud, in some cases. A warm welcome to Maewest1213. Hugs back to all who sent them. Pyrate9, her husband WAS embarrassed but too small of a man to correct her. I wanted her to stop complaining because there were other people in the elevator who, I’m sure, had REAL worries weighing on their hearts. I wasn’t about to indulge this woman and her childish whining. Anyway, love to all of you. ❤️
19 июн 18 написано членом: BlueJeanCuisine
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I’d have lost my job or at least been ‘called to the office’. My response would’ve been ‘you need to go find a decent attitude’ or something along those lines. I’m sorry you had to deal with her attitude and remember her comment was more about her nastiness than anything about you. You didn’t agree so she decided to get back at you plain and simple the only way she probably knows how- by being mean.
19 июн 18 написано членом: peeperjj
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I'd have told her of this: "I AM on a diet AND losing weight, one day we'll meet again, you won't recognize me because I'll be thin, but I'll recognize you, because you'll STILL be a bitch."
19 июн 18 написано членом: BlueFront
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Good for you on both counts! Never ceases to amaze me how rude and obnoxious some people can be. If you deal a lot with the public it is hard to avoid. I had some stock answers for the rudest I encountered. Those answers showed the other person I traveled the high road and they meant nothing to me. Shame that we have to have tough armor. When I would finally make it home, it was another matter. The ones you love can hurt the most. Thankfully, there are more "good" people out there than complete a@#@#.
19 июн 18 написано членом: kattay
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My job is a Hospitality position in the hospital where I work, so I don't have the luxury of putting someone in their appropriate place. She was no SlimJim either, so I had some GREAT one liners. Oh well...Thank you ALL for caring.
19 июн 18 написано членом: BlueJeanCuisine
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Some people are so awful, I always wish I could come up with quick one liners when needed but not quick enough. Keep up the good work.
19 июн 18 написано членом: skinnyminny54
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19 июн 18 написано членом: jannahaja
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"ROCK ON", i too am a little on the bigger side of life and only now am i doing something about it, i love this story cause i can relate to it but new found wisdom with gym i take those comments on board (without my usual less than tasteful responses i can dish out at times) and take the negative to the gym and lift it out of me i was 153 kgs (337) now 138.1 (304) taken 5 months but hey im livin it. Go get e'm and as others have said she will be a nasty piece of work her whole life, at least were a shape and getting happier about that shape changes daily.
19 июн 18 написано членом: petejewell
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My most used reply was said with the nicest smile "I'm sure You know how hard it is to lose weight and keep it off". The emphasis on "You" without raising my voice and then saying "Have a nice day" still being super sweet and walk away. Never give that person time or space to further engage you. In this day and age most people are very tender about their weight even if they are "normal size" and few secretly think they are the right weight.
20 июн 18 написано членом: kattay
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You nailed it; the woman was a bitch. We have no idea why; she may have plantar fascitis on her foot and had to hoof it from the parking garage. She may have been going to see her equally horrific sister who is stuck in a hospital bed due to complications from her weight. She lashed out at YOU because you were standing right there and because she has zero class. But you have class. You have a job that requires walking around and being friendly to sick, angry, hurting, sad people at a time when some folks retire. I have nothing but kudos for you (no, not those chocolatey granola bars!)
20 июн 18 написано членом: SoCalPam
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Thanks again EVERYONE!
I had trouble sleeping last night, it took a Xanax to get me there knowing I had to go to work today. I feel better today and am going to focus on my resolve.
When I drove home from work last night, the drive is always a challenge because it takes place between 645-8pm, and I am ALWAYS really hungry. It's only 2 days a week, but I have a hard time making it home without stopping to get a bite to eat and it is rarely healthy. I take the Turnpike home now because there is less temptation than taking Rt. 18, which is littered with fast food. But even after the Turnpike, I have to take a county road with WAWA's and ice cream shops and Dunkins. Sometimes I'm strong...other times I am not so successful. Trying to stay LCHF, I got a side of meatballs in a cup at WAWA but then had no strength to not buy the small bag of POTATO CHIPS! Then, when I got home, there was Coconut cake and Chocolate Cream pie left over from a Fathers Day lunch I had for my family on Sunday and I dove right into both! the pieces were small, but still...It was delicious and disgusting. I've recovered this morning. I realize what I did, why I did it and am back in a better mind set.
It's amazing how easily we can get derailed. But I also discovered that we have to be strong within ourselves. We can't always depend on the support of those we love around us. Unless you suffer obesity, they don't understand the cloud that surrounds you each and every day. Anyway, NO MORE PITY PARTY.
Thanks again to everyone. LET'S ALL KEEP ON KEEPIN' ON.
20 июн 18 написано членом: BlueJeanCuisine
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Kindness heaps coals of Fire upon their heads and does not feed the fire of their hatred.
Kattay has that right.
20 июн 18 написано членом: Samantharox1
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I will never understand mean people. I’m feel sorry for that person. And I’m sorry they were mean to you. Even though we know it’s their problem, those kind of comments hurt. Hugs to you. You’re doing well!
20 июн 18 написано членом: momma6224
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I try to console myself with the knowledge that she is miserable and has to be with herself 24/7. Sorry that happened to you.
20 июн 18 написано членом: jengetfit123
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Thanks for sharing, hope your week goes well BJC!!
20 июн 18 написано членом: Steven Lloyd
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Being mean is a coping mechanism of the weak for perceived slights received in their own lives. Transference is far easier than directly taking responsibility for her own actions. Always take the high road - you are responsible for your obedience to the norms you ascribe to, not the affect or the results it may bear in the lives of others - you did your best to cope with evil, be proud!
20 июн 18 написано членом: From371to184
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I agree success is a better revenge. Take advantage of every motivational opportunity...
20 июн 18 написано членом: John10251
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